A Note about Father's

From the moment a man finds out his wife is pregnant suddenly he is protecting her that much more, making sure she doesn’t lift anything too heavy, running out at 10 p.m. to get pistachio ice cream,--- and maybe pickles. He talks to his wife’s swollen belly, rubbing the baby he can’t yet feel, and certainly already falling in love.

So often in the case of miscarriage we focus on the mother and her loss, often forgetting the father or at least downplaying his grief. In a society that already views men’s emotions as a sign of weakness, as Christians we ought not to act this way.

People mistakenly think that if you bring up a sad subject it will make everyone sad and cause more pain. The opposite is true, for someone grieving a child the recognition of their child’s life and existence by family and friends is incredibly comforting. I promise you they are already thinking about their loss, they are already sad. Comforting them validates their emotions and allows them to grieve openly. It can make the difference between a day that they were just gritting their teeth to get through and a day where they felt the balm of kind words and the encouragement of fellow saints.

This Father’s Day if you know a father who has recently lost a child to miscarriage, give him the blessing of remembering his child. A simple asking, “how are you doing?” is enough.

 “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2